How Much Eye Contact is Normal for Babies?

Who can ever explain the overwhelming emotion that you feel when staring eye to eye with your baby? The natural connection is what my elders call the family bond. How much eye contact is normal for babies?

Naturally, eye contact is essential whenever you need or want to. With the benefits, you cannot measure the frequency in doing it. In fact, I encourage you to do the same as many times as possible.

In this article, I will tell you the importance of eye gaze within your family circle particularly with your little ones. How to make it right and how frequent you need to do it are all part of how memorable and wonderful it would be.


Do you know me?

I bet that your first gaze with your son comes with a question, “Do you know me?” I bet that the first day you noticed that your child recognized your face was epic unforgettable. The warm feeling that you feel when your eyes meet is a sense of happiness and security to your baby. It is a mutual positive spark unique between parent and child.

That cute little smile that forms in your newborn’s lips proves it right. Eye contact establishes a silent communication within.

What is the importance of eye gaze?

Do you know that eye gazing is important because it does not only involves emotional development but is also intellectual? Eye contact is a natural bond that plays an important role in providing information about the environment and emotions. When an infant gazes on to the mom’s eyes and face, he starts associating it with the sound of a voice, person, laughter, and the emotions that go with seeing and hearing all of it are stored in his memory. It is the beginning of analyzing the connection of feelings of happiness and love.

As your baby matures, he will learn to share with you information. This explains situations wherein parents understand what their kids think and feel even without talking. You should know that this stage is the foundation of your child’s language and vocabulary.

This significant progress helps children to control emotions and stay calm successfully. Because of this, they will find it easy to relate to others, adjust, and respond to any type of communication.

When does the development of infant eye contact begin?

Can you forget your newborn’s first eye gaze? I cannot. It will remain in my memory and in my heart. The development of eye contact could be different with each child, but below is the usual occurrence recorded after childbirth.

  • After childbirth, newborns already shows interest in their mom’s face. In just seven (7) hours, they can try to imitate facial expressions.
  • In two (2) months, your baby can intentionally focus his gaze on your face. Do you remember those bright wide eyes? How about their interest with the colorful crib mobiles?
  • In three (3) months, his gaze follows you wherever you go. He can do it even at a distance too. This stage is the perfect timing to bring your baby outdoors often.
  • In ten (10) months, they can definitely gaze as you do. That means he already realized that the eyes are for looking and seeing.

As a parent, you can observe it happening and take notes. There might be a slight difference in time, but you already know that every child is unique. You need not to worry; he is on the right track. Within this period, your special connection is now strong that he already knows the relation of facial expression and the emotion that goes with it.

Here is a video supporting the development of eye contact.

How to establish eye contact with your baby?

Eye contact is not difficult. In fact, it comes naturally between parents and newborns. Most of the time, it is emotionally a happy experience. I know that each parent-child relationship is also unique and is not wise to compare. That explains how one family culture is quite different from another.

If you are having a hard time (though rarely it happens) to establish the connection, I have here some tips to encourage eye contact between you and your newborn.

  • Do not expect that babies will win the eye gazing contest. They can only do gaze and focus in a very short time.
  • Never force your baby to establish eye contact. A baby that is sick with fever, hungry, sleepy, or upset cannot be in the mood to do so. Find the right time.
  • Practice matters. Start establishing eye contact by holding your baby 15 inches away from your face. It is effective in facilitating gaze and focus.
  • When you find your baby staring at you, grab your chance!
  • Gazing into your baby’s eyes becomes more special with your gentle touch and voice.
  • Do not feel bad when your baby turns away when looking at you. It does not mean he is tired of looking at you. He only needs time to process everything he sees in your face.

My Final Thoughts

Keep in mind to be patient regarding your child’s development. The eyes are the language of the soul. How much eye contact is normal for babies?

There is no telling how frequent your child to see through you. What is normal is the need for your baby to learn from it all. Take note that a baby could be sensitive and shy; some may be open and engaging. How about your baby?

Just remember that eye contact is a mutual connection that helps in your baby’s emotional and intellectual development. I encourage you to do so, whenever you get the chance!

Sarah Palmer

Hi! I'm Sarah. My husband and I have a beautiful little girl; plus we’re anxiously awaiting the arrival of Baby #2, so this is a very exciting time for us. Throughout this amazing journey called Parenthood, I’ve learned so much and love sharing my experiences with other parents at I'd love to share my discoveries with you too!

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